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Cause My Heart Belongs To Daddy
Here's the sickest thing I've seen in a long time, thanks to fsr44 who originally posted it on the BC forum. I'm posting it here for those who haven't seen it yet.

Not that it's a new concept, but still, big squick.

I was thinking about this, and I realized that one of the reasons my dad is one of my best friends is that our relationship is 100% nonsexual, one of very few friendships I have with a male that is totally free of sexual tension. We can even talk about sex, up to a point, at least better than most fathers and daughters probably can, because it is a totally safe space, free of any sexual tension.

Why would anybody want to screw that up by staging a wedding with his daughter/her father?

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fsr44 From: fsr44 Date: January 24th, 2007 08:42 pm (UTC) (Link)
Honestly, as I was reading it, I was thinking about how much that sort of thing would have embarrassed my dad. God I miss him.
It's a shame that they've thrown together "father and daughter time" (highly important) with this sexual crap. I have fond memories of going to my high school's Father Daughter Dance with Dad. And trust me, there were no rings exchanged, no wedding cake, no vows. Just some nice one on one time with your dad, your friends and your friends' dads.
Just the other day I was watching something on TV and there was a scene with a guy of my father's generation dancing (waltz or foxtrot or some such). And for a minute I could have just burst into tears, because I remembered exactly what it felt like to dance with my Dad (he was a wonderful dancer, and I miss that and a million other things).
I know, I digress, and now I'm all sniffly again. But among the many things wrong with the events in that article, is that wrapping sex into the paternal relationship denies these girls that sort of uncomplicated, loving relationship. I didn't want to know about my dad's sex life and he certainly didn't want to know about mine. As a Catholic, I'm sure he would have preferred me to stay a virgin until marriage, but as a father I knew that his love, respect and esteem for me had nothing to do with my choices in these matters.
I'll stop now, I've run on too long.
islandmomma From: islandmomma Date: January 24th, 2007 10:42 pm (UTC) (Link)
It's sick and it's scary!

I have Ella Fitzgerald singing that, and even her version makes me feel a bit uncomfortable these days. That's sad.

You and fsr44 are so lucky to have/have had fathers like that. I know how much you miss him, fsr, but you still did have it. It's a rare and wonderful thing.

One of the delights of getting older has been acquiring good relationships with guys which are totally free of sexual tension or inuendo. I think I might have remarked on it recently. Of course, it would be nice to have one that was..........but I very much enjoy my new type of friendships.
retc From: retc Date: January 25th, 2007 01:44 am (UTC) (Link)

That's bizarre.

I would think that the one who says she will not even kiss before her wedding day may have a hard time finding a husband....
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